Nervous about possibly kissing your date the second time you went out? But first, you have to guarantee that you will get a second date. To do that, you have to do the first date right.
Pulling Off a Smooth and Enjoyable First Date
Guys tend to just go with the flow during their first date. They often prepare by telling themselves that they just have to be honest about who they really are. Then, they get confused when the girl who started out being enthusiastic ends up being cold and distant about going out on a second date.
To ensure a great first date, here are some tips on treating her nicely:
Show your gentlemanly moves. Open the car door for her, hold her chair, and assist her whenever she needs help. Most of all, don’t go looking at other women when you’re on a date. Be attentive to her and her alone.
A great date ideally lasts for 2 to 3 hours. It would be almost unreasonable and unusual to extend a first date to 8 hours. Doing this would only tire both of you out right away. Although it’s good to establish a sense of togetherness, don’t overdo it. Being too familiar with one another right away might not be such a good thing.
Let her feel excited about your next date by showing her that you still have a lot of fun times to offer.
Don’t go 100% serious on her. Discussing things such as the Armageddon or apocalypse might not make for a good first date. Go for light and funny topics.
Be extra observant about when it might be a great time to try touching her. Grabbing her is a big mistake. Don’t assume that she’s fine with you putting your arm around her, holding her hands, or touching her hair. There are women who don’t like men violating their personal space right away. It’s a turn off for many.
You’ll know when she’s ready if she touches you first. It could be a slight tap while she’s laughing.
You may want to shelf your disappointing stories first. Don’t ever talk about your former lovers. The date is more about testing the waters for a possible second date.
Keep some personal information to yourself. Stop yourself from telling her right away that you like her. It might be a turn off. If she does say yes to a second date, the enthusiasm, mystery, and suspense would have likely been reduced significantly. Keep her interested by not giving her a tell-all about your feelings.
Don’t spoil her with compliments either. Reduce your generosity at first. Minimize the gifts.